Friday, September 24, 2010

What a way to start the day.

I was so mistaken when I thought today was going to be a good day.. JJ got up early, got dressed without me telling him to and was looking for breakfast by the time I got up at 6:45am.  I thought, well this is a nice start to the day for a change.. I was wrong though.

After cooking him his favorite , an english muffin with cheese and egg, he then got so defiant with me and didn't want to go brush his teeth and hair.  So once again the morning struggle was on!  The incisive talking back, not wanting to do what he is told, getting so angry and then hitting things, or slamming doors or saying "I hate you" it just wears me down. When I pushed him to go do it, he says "I'm going to call social services on you" ! Like where does that come from. He is only 9 what does he know about social services? Do 9yr olds talk about this stuff at school?  I tell him that social services won't help him, he is disobeying a parent and has to do as he is told...  it gets me no where, but its the same conversation every time a zillion times a day.  Since Asperger kids can have other disorders like OCD, ADD, ADHD, I have been doing a lot of internet searching and personally I think he has whats called "oppositional difiant disorder". Here is a list of characteristic behaviors seen in Oppositional Defiant Disorder children. They include:

•Getting angry easily
•Arguing and talking back to adults
•Defying reasonable requests
•Bucking rules
•Intentionally bothering people
•Pushing their limits
•Not taking responsibility for their mistakes or misbehavior
•Getting easily annoyed
•Getting angry easily
•Being resentful, spiteful, or vindictive.
•Speaking harshly
•Being brutally unkind when upset
•Seeking revenge
•Having frequent temper tantrums

Parents of ODD children usually describe their children as being rigid and demanding, even from an early age.

I have to tell you that having Aspergers is quite enough but JJ has every single one of these symptoms since he was just a toddler.  Believe me when I say it is so hard to deal with day in and day out.  I can honestly say that there has never,ever been one day where things have gone smoothly. NOT ONE!!  Every time he talks back and refuses to do something, I be consistant (which we were told would work) and I take something away that he likes, like his lego stuff, his DS, or time on the computer playing games.  But nothing works, he still doesn't change.  I have been battling this for 7 yrs, seven long, long years... and then you top off those actions with lack of eye contact, not being able to read my facial expressions, getting stressed out easily and repeating things over and over and then having meltdowns... oh my....

I called his dr. yesterday to follow up on a referral he was going to make for JJ in regards to his bowel problems and which I still hadn't gotten a call about another appointment...  I was told there was a two yr waiting list... two years!!!! He will be 11 by then and I will probably have major problems by then!! What kind of help is that??? Seriously.... why does this city only have one developmental psychologist?  I am so down in the dumps..

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